Dearly cherished, our company is collected right here right now to get through this thing also known as⦠a period finale! Yes, it really is true, this episode marks the conclusion the absolute blockbuster that was S2 of
Wait, Is It A Date?
And commemorate that ending, whom safer to come-on and talk about the joys and positive results of a lengthy range crush, than actor and queer individual Elise Bauman? You might identify Elise from Lifetime’s wonderful queer Christmas rom-com that can come down this past year,
In Christmas Time Tree
,
but around these elements, she’s got another subject that will be nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girlfriend! Yes, you got that right, this shimmering twosome was birthed from great queer heritage: the long-distance crush.
Exactly what is it towards long-distance crush that will be very appealing to queers around the world? Would it be the relative scarceness of like-minded queers close to you? even the capability to flirt long distance takes a few of the force down? The 3 of us enter the whole thing, AND Drew and Elise show some potentially also sexy factual statements about their particular union!
Not to mention there clearly was a-game! This week, I make Drew play the game that simply got over Twitter and Tiktok for a couple fleeting weeks: “They’re a 10 but⦔ It is a good time, all around!
PROGRAM NOTES
+ Practice Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Browse Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ Enjoy
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it nevertheless rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs tend to be⦠indeed quite powerful!
+ will likely Shortz is definitely the name with the NYT Crossword publisher!
*the more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: following we got off the cellphone, immediately after which the two of us hopped throughout the cellphone two moments later we are like, “and so the edge is closed, the audience is legitimately prohibited to truly go across the line.”
Christina
: I mean, top among one of the best vocals memos as well as texts I managed to get from Drew, I can’t bear in mind which kind it came in, it absolutely was want, “I made this plan of action nowadays the boundaries are shut.” Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it absolutely was an actual minute.
[theme track plays]
Drew
: Hi, I’m Drew.
Christina
: And That I’m Christina.
Drew
: And introducing
Hold Off, So Is This A Date?
Christina
:
Wait, Is It A Night Out Together?
is an Autostraddle podcast presented by me personally obtaining the giggles, and concern that is on every person’s mouth, wait, had been this a romantic date?
Drew
: we are at the end of all of our second season, and I believe we solved it, I think.
Christina
: Yeah, i do believe i am simply getting big finale fuel, like whenever comedies used to be facing a facility market, and everybody would walk-in and there had been an hour of applause since it ended up being like, this is the finally, which is the way I’m feeling. Though becoming obvious, not one person provides applauded me however, hateful. Thank you, thank-you. Now I feel loved and held. Drew, who happen to be you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about this part.
Christina
: Yeah, proper?
Drew:
Maybe season three I’ll have the intros. My name is Drew Gregory, i will be an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans girl. Guess what happens, i do believe if we carry out another season I want to have a fun one we throw-in at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, something spicy, you want to jazz it up?
Drew
: Yeah, I don’t have anything today however.
Christina
: Okay, leave them wishing a lot more, In my opinion that’s fantastic.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: i’m Christina Tucker, I am also a writer at Autostraddle, while the net as a whole. A podcaster, a find gay black woman, and somebody who’s feeling fairly jazzy below about this mid-day.
Drew
: Great, i am really glad that you are flashy and I also’m spicy, or at least I’m planning the chance that sooner or later i’m going to be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you are like, I’m not sure, the very first 50 % of the film Dune, the spruce should come. Cool reference, women, she actually is single. Anyway, I do have a casino game for people playing with this hollowed day of all of our finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: Here Is The traditional, and also by traditional What I’m Saying Is a-game that overran the net and TikTok for 2-3 weeks, “They May Be a 10, but⦔
Drew
: Ah, fantastic.
Christina
: today Drew, i’ll set out some ground principles for you personally, because I’m sure you adore a followup question.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: While I state they truly are a 10, they truly are a 10 to you by any means that counts to you, that may be literally, which can be emotionally, this is simply someone you feel is a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, ok, thank you.
Christina
: i actually do n’t have any circumstances for what otherwise you contained in this person have already been carrying out in your online dating life, you’re just attending need to go together with your instinct and decide.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: All right?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: We’re going to place in which make that obvious, right here we get. They can be a 10, but they clap if the airplane places.
Drew
: I always decided everyone was also dramatic using this, in which it’s like they truly are a 10 and therefore thing makes them go to a-two, think about it.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: and so i’m gonna still give a pretty substantial eight.
Christina
: Yeah, In my opinion that’s reasonable. I think eight could be the proper amount of cringe removal for the small action. Fine, this might be outstanding beginning. Okay, they’re a nine however they never ever text you first.
Drew
: and I also are unable to ask followup questions?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: thus I cannot ask, really would they text me when I text? I would personally say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting first actually, which is rough.
Drew
: actually is actually odd.
Christina
: that is crude material. Okay, they are a five however they drive one to every errand that you have ever had to run.
Drew
: which is really nice, but I could always⦠If there are five, we’ll provide him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But i am aware you like a solamente jaunt anyway, you adore an errand run.
Drew
:What i’m saying is now my personal girlfriend Elise performed drive me to an errand, and I had been really grateful, however if that was the thing she did we mightn’t be in an union, that was just an added little nice extra.
Christina
: In my opinion which is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: fine, they truly are a seven nonetheless they just pretend to read through your projects.
Drew
: start to see the element of that that bothers me personally may be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we understood it will be.
Drew
: it is not the maybe not checking out it. Should they didn’t study could work it really is like, I’m not that, I would be just a little, it is like never? But it’s great, i really could overcome it. Nonetheless they rest if you ask me about that is what’s weird for me, with the intention thatshould go lower to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, proper, proper. These include a three but they gain access to the criterion wardrobe.
Drew
: And would I get you to definitely go?
Christina
: And you have accessibility, you benefit from that access, yes.
Drew
: i possibly could have a good fling with this six.
Christina
: i believe you could. It had been a three, but yeah, you’re slamming it to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that is what i am stating, I’m slamming it up to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. Everyone loves that. They’re an eight but all of their friends tend to be straight.
Drew
: Okay, there was some discourse about any of it, because In my opinion there clearly was a needed assist. I do believe We maybe was actually in the contrary area of many regarding the Autostraddle team just who asserted that its good to only have directly pals. I would like to point out that it really is fine, it is simply perhaps not living We lead. All straight buddies, that will check-out a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, I’m going to need certainly to agree with you thereon one, i’d only believe it is only a little troubling, perplexing.
Drew
: All direct pals?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: if they are not used to queerness and are attempting to meet even more queer folks, which is distinct from if they’re an established season queer who’s similar, you-know-what? I like getting the main one lesbian during my friend number of straight people.
Christina
: Yeah, i might feel the same way when it had been a Black individual who had been like, “There isn’t any Black pals,” I would end up like, “what are you doing there?” Internally.
Drew
: we aren’t in a network sitcom, we can not have a token person.
Christina
: you should not become token, you don’t have to accomplish that to yourself. Okay, we have three even more. They truly are a seven even so they spend-all their sparetime at the gym, consistently weight lifting along. I am not sure what people would in the gym.
Drew
: their sparetime. I guess it depends on which counts as free time. We’ll say a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: we’ll bump them all the way down two.
Christina
: Bump them down.
Drew
: but that is fine. I guess this will depend mostly for me personally, that we’m maybe not inquiring a take question, i am keeping five, it depends in my experience what truly matters as spare time.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: are we able to view flicks with each other, or venture out for eating, would be that free time? Is not operate time free-time, or is it really like once we lack other activities?
Christina
: I hear you, we listen to you.
Drew
: But I’ll stick to five.
Christina
: fine. They are six, however their mom is actually hotter than they are.
Drew
: Oh, I’m not sure to move up or down.
Christina
: i am aware, right?
Drew
: I don’t consider i possibly could ever date somebody for their⦠It really is like basically’m maybe not attracted to some one in the first place, I’m most likely not will be dating them.
Christina
: Right.
Drew
: I’m not gonna be love, well, they might end up as their particular hot mom. I believe I’d declare that they truly are still a six, I’m only planning to perhaps not refer to them as and I also’m browsing phone their unique mommy.
Christina
: Yeah, personally i think like it’s as if you remain exactly the same, but maybe I hang out to you just a little longer than I would necessary-
Drew
: which is a beneficial point.
Christina
: receive some mom time. I really don’t think you change.
Drew
: used to do one thing really terrible that I still believe terribly pertaining to, which will be that somebody asked myself aside, and this also ended up being as I was at school, and I also wasn’t interested, I really was clear about this, I happened to be clear I wasn’t curious. However she wanted to be friends, and that I could tell that she stated she planned to end up being buddies but it had been originating from location-
Christina
: She was wishing.
Drew
: Yeah. Nevertheless the thing is the fact that all her friends were truly hot and cool, and so I performed always been the woman buddy in order to spend time together with her friends. I did not lie about my motives generally speaking, but it still was not the nicest thing I did as a 20 year old.
Christina
: after all regrettably it reminds me personally of these episode of
Sex while the City
where Carrie’s matchmaking, I do believe it’s Justin Theroux, and he sucks, but their household stones, and she is like, I am able to do this for slightly. I’m like, yeah, absolutely, whom could not.
Drew
: Carrie was not wanting to attach with his household, the distinction, however know what? Its good, we’re all good.
Christina
: A hookup can look like something, i am usually saying that.
Drew
: That’s an extremely fantastic point.
Christina
: Your last one, is a three but has a beach home.
Drew
: I’m planning to say an annoying sentence, but I visited NYU.
Christina
: Horrible to say.
Drew
: Something that sucks about myself, which this is exactly browsing sound like a very humble brag, because it’s in fact probably an effective personality attribute, however it sucks as one checking out the world. We went along to a college that’s filled up with rich people who have all sorts of awesome beach houses, and all sorts of these other things, and I merely became friends with people who had been there on scholarships. Just, but largely, I surely, i did not make friends with people who had beach houses.
Christina
: You Probably Didn’t make use of.
Drew
: Yeah, I really believe if they’re a three even so they have actually a beach house, they may be most likely a two. The simple fact⦠I’m not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you merely can’t make that leap to utilize the ill beach home time.
Drew
: No, it sucks. But what i am actually hoping is the fact that my buddies who’re rather down-to-earth, good individuals, more and more of those are only gonna still have that brand-new money immediately after which get coastline homes, then i will be able to go out using my fantastic buddies and become at a beach home. That is the dream in which i really could get the coastline home.
Christina
: That’s the dream after a single day, it’s brand new cash and a beach house, that is all we’re shopping for. You heard it here first people.
Drew
: i enjoy brand-new cash.
Christina
: Love new money.
Drew
: Love brand-new cash. Yeah, that has been a delight. I’d actually, I’d truly already been attempting to perform that video game since it ended up being something on TikTok, therefore thank-you for making my fantasies become a reality.
Christina
: I imagined it would be a fun someone to carry out, plus it had been really fun to create them.
Drew
: Well, should we move on to the major segment on the week, that’s falling for folks who are now living in various other urban centers. Basically diverse from long distance interactions, because cross country connections can begin well into a commitment, they could continue on into a connection, here is the need that queer individuals have to look at their unique destination they stay and get, no, I am not probably flirt with your folks, i’ll carry on instagram.com and discover someone that lives really faraway. And we also have a, i am aware we usually say a very special visitor, but also for myself this might be a tremendously unique visitor. Do you want to introduce your self?
Elise
: I would personally love to introduce myself personally. Was we the special guest?
Drew
: you’re, yes.
Christina
: Baby, needless to say.
Elise
: Great, wow, incredible. I’m called Elise Bauman, i am an actor, I’m a queer individual, and I’m here now because i am resting with among the many hosts.
Christina
: Guess which one?
Elise
: Yeah, the rest of the podcast is only the audience attempting decipher which variety i am resting with. I prefer that, it really is like a murder mystery but-
Christina
: there’s really no way to understand.
Elise
: there’s really no option to understand. Yeah, does this create myself a nepotism baby? Is how the business really works.
Christina
: Yes, that is the way the business works, hottie.
Elise
: sweet, good.
Christina
: that is it.
Elise
: Wow, perhaps I could get a career out of this.
Christina
: Fingers entered for your needs.
Elise
: Nepo infant to career, wow, fantastic. I usually desired to be a nepo baby.
Christina
: I’m so grateful.
Drew
: Yeah, I found myself only probably point out that for people who do not know, really now I’m ruining the murder secret from it all, but Elise and that I can be found in an union, and performed begin matchmaking throughout pandemic, and Elise resides in Toronto, and I also inhabit L. A., which have been in reality different metropolitan areas, consequently they are in reality in numerous nations.
Elise
: They are undoubtedly, these include certainly.
Christina
: And Drew, not to say you moved against your own instinct, but i actually do feel as though you’re generally a person who states, precisely why bother with a long length moment? You can find individuals the following I’m able to date, so why do this to yourself? You understand it will likely be difficult, you understand it will likely be hard, how come this? However here you may be.
Drew
: See, that is fascinating, because I feel like i appreciated getting a bit of both, i recently think I didn’t do the long distance types perhaps because seriously.
Christina
: possibly that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But i usually liked a long length flirt.
Christina
: Correct.
Drew
: And so I think this only stored heading. Once we started-
Elise
: so that the answer, Drew, wasn’t that I became only amazing therefore was actually personal to me, and this had been very particular for me that I was merely incredibly amazing so that you merely smashed all rules and you said, “i must have any particular one.”
Drew
: i am talking about really sort of the clear answer in a lengthier good sense. In the sense so it just held going on. Right after which the close friends for the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, whom we regularly live with, as some people may already know, i’d be like, I would be wanting to date folks during pandemic in Los Angeles and the surrounding areas of Los Angeles. Right after which they’d make fun of me personally because I would sometimes you should be like, “after all, i possibly could only make an effort to date Elise Bauman.” I was constantly, “I mean, {this person|this i
